Don’t underestimated the importance of how you feel – in birth and in the months or years after. Although the moment of birth occurs on one day (perhaps after many days of labouring) it is not just another day of no significance. It impacts a mother deeply, whether she is conscious of this or not. It influences the way she views her baby and herself as a mother. It influences the way she engages with health professionals and the support services provided for mothers and families. It influences how she feels about another baby and giving birth again.
If you (or someone important to you) is unconvinced, approach your mother, aunty, grandmother, or friend who is one or two generations older than you and ask if they remember their births and would be willing to share their story. Ask them to tell you how it was when they gave birth. And be ready with a cup of tea, a hug and plenty of empathy – no judgement.